When I was younger I would not hesitate one iota of a second to give someone a piece of my mind should they push the wrong button. I’m actually not short tempered, nor intolerant or unkind but I wouldn’t tolerate someone being unjustifiably rude, inconsiderate or mean to people, this can run from the random “you just stepped on my foot, looked straight at me and ignored the fact” to the insanity of the unreasonable idiot who has been told hundreds of times their behaviour is not acceptable.
So…given my yoga training and more importantly that every interaction with others has an effect on yourself whether we acknowledge it or not, over the years I started to realise you always have a choice about what you want to give… PIECE or PEACE of mind.
I watched a little video (link below) and it really stuck with me even though it was pretty cheesy. It showed a guy going through his day being short tempered and impatient with all these people over relatively minor things until someone gave him these glasses. The glasses showed signs over peoples heads telling him what the major problem in their life was (Best friend just died, Just lost job, Recovering Alcoholic, etc) This guy seriously needed to learn some yogic breathing!
It is so true. You never know what is going on and why a person may be reacting in a seemingly rude or inconsiderate way. I mean it is pretty damn hard to even focus if you just lost your job and you are the breadwinner even if you did just step on someones foot. Then again there may be nothing going on and they may just be rude!! I’d rather give someone the benefit of the doubt.
You NEVER know what a little kindness or appreciation can do for someone. We tend to complain and are all too ready to say when something isn’t right – what about all the times it IS right, we often take all those for granted. OK so your meal is a bit cold, what about all the times its served piping hot, quickly and with a smile? Do you really thank the probably harassed waitress (look at her face and thank her)who has most likely been abused a 100 times yet genuinely thanked only a few?
I actually love the thrill of – only sincerely and privately mind you – letting someones boss know they’ve done a great job ESPECIALLY when they have handled a genuine complaint I may have made. How cool is it to know that someone who really deserves it may get recognised when they otherwise might not just because you bothered to take a few minutes out and tell someone what a great job they did?
Then you can walk away from those experiences with PEACE of mind.
Here is the video: Get Service